The ADD Serie - Things you should say!

A while ago I wrote about what you shouldn't say to an AD(H)D avected person and now it is time to show what you could say so we get a little boost ^^ Well there is something that you should have in mind when you talk to an ADHD person! If it has a slightly negative descent in your voice, no matter what you say (!), it will never get right to us. So if you want to say something nice, just say it if you really mean it like you say it.

The ADD Serie - How to life with it

First of all accept it and don't look at it as if it is a disease! Thats the key point to life with it and be happy. It isn't a disease. ADHD People just think and reakt in another way than a unaffected person would. We are mostly creative, open and full of joy. So whats the problem with it? Yeah maybe we have problem to focus on boring stuff and also react a little bit harder than others would do. But it is totally ok. Maybe don't wrip somones head of whene you are angry but you should stay your ground in a calm way.

Here some tips. They helped me in some harsh moments.

The ADD Serie - Things you shouldn't say!

I really want to entrust you the following scentens you actually shouldn't say to an AD(H)D person. I also try to explain why you shouldn't say it. General because it hurts, but also sometimes it is frustrating for us. Yes, we know we sometimes can't do things like non AD(H)D person and we get angry about ourselfs because we simply can't do it. When someone is coming and says stuff like "It's not that hard." We feel sometimes like nobody actually want to understand us nor listen when we say something. Aside moste of the people wouldn't like it eighter to hear such things.

The ADD Serie - How does it affect outsiders?

Last time I explained or at least tried to explain how ADD feels like and how it affects ourselfs. This time I really want to flip the coin and see how the unconcerned person is affected.
The post is for every one that stands near a AD(H)D Person like parents, partner or even close friends, but also for the concerned person it can be helpfull, so you actually can understand how hard it can be for others to understand.

One thing that can be is that the AD(H)D person is forgetting the time or even appointments. They don't do it because they don't care or don't like you they just forgott. If there is a important appointments please remind us to set up an reminder or just remind us ^^

Another thing is, because we have such a big issue on concentrait and focusing we often have to ask same stuff again and again, we are very sorry for that really!

One thing is also, that we have sometimes mood swings. And because we don't understand them, we get angry.

So for an outsider, who hasn't ADD it can be quit irritating. Because we look like we don't listen or/and aren't intressted. Also sometimes in one moment we are extreamly happy and full of joy and the next moment every thing sucks and we are sad. And sometimes we get angry and freak out. Then we can't controll ourselfs, we just see red. That can lead to just shouting aroung or cring or even (especially when it is a child) flail around. After we freaked out let us some time to cool down, especially whene we walk away. Normally we will regret what we sad or what we have done. But when the ADD person worked on him/her self the amount of "outbreaks" decrease and can get to nearly zero.

So in fact our behaviour affects and mystify the "outsider". We can be very nerve-racking, BUT also we can be very faithful, empathetic and it never gets boring aroung us ;)

Hope I could explain how the people without ADD feels like around ADD affected.  

The ADD Serie - How do it affect people concerned?

Hi again :)

Because it is really hard to explain how ADD affect people concerned I just will write what's coming in my mind. ^^

So I didn't eplained why AD(H)D people have problem with concentrate on thing. So here a explanation. 
Well you could say we have a damaged brain, but actually it isn't...it just works not the same way than others.  
The easiest way to explain it then is with a "filter" door. People without AD(H)D can close this door when there are unimportant information and open it for important stuff. A person with AD(H)D can't, the door don't exist it's just a doorframe and every single information can go throught. 

The ADD Serie - What is it?

Hello folk!


This Post Serie is something I really, really want to do, because on my way trough life I realized more and more how much ADD affected me and also my surrounding. So I will start a Serie about it, what it is and how it affects the person who has it and their surrounding. Also I would like to write what you never ever should say to a ADD person and how you should "behave" in different situations. Briefly what ADD is and the advantages and disadvantages.

First of all what is ADD?

ADD or ADHD is the abbreviation for Attention Devicit (Hyperactiv) Disorder. As you can see there are two different "types" of this Disorder. The one who isn't hyperactiv (harder to diagnose) and the one with. I can just speak for the ADD part, because I'm not hyperactiv. But the main characteristics are the same.